Important dating tips to keep in mind | If you're looking for more than just a connection or someone to fill an immediate gap in your schedule, then you may be frustrated with modern dating.
Many of my clients who are looking for marriage (or at least a serious, committed partnership), are struggling with the online dating scene because they can't find meaningful connections.
It is common for many of my clients to report feeling hopeless, frustrated, and even completely burned out.
Does it sound familiar to you?
What's interesting is that despite the high probability of being on the same apps, my clients looking for the same thing (deep connection) still miss other like-minded singles.
Match after match, appointment after appointment, my clients feel incredibly overwhelmed and often stressed that they may never find what they're looking for (or worse, that it doesn't exist!) How can this be? ?
Another problem with online dating is that it has the impact of stunting our confidence in reaching people in person. There's a chance you're missing out on a genuine connection with that cute little barista you see every Tuesday.
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Online dating also has the potential to obstruct our perception of "what we really want" by instilling innate judgment in myriad profiles, making the entire process dehumanizing and impersonal.
Online dating can also leave you quite lazy and you may not even realize how unavailable and closed you are in person.
So here's what you can do to try and increase your chances of finding a genuine match without being completely destigmatized by endless dating profiles, games, and social rituals.
According to Market Watch, the average American spends 11 hours a day in some type of media! In our experience, how many of these hours are spent on social media or online dating apps?
If you were honest with yourself, it's probably a lot. No judgment! But with that said, so much exposure to online profiles will make anyone de-stigmatize throughout the process.
Try setting an intentional time for browsing online profiles, rather than habitually scrolling through endless profiles while at a red light, while in the bathroom, between meetings, while waiting for a friend for lunch, etc. , etc.
By setting this intention (I would suggest 1-3 hours per week, say every Thursday) to browse through profiles with the intention of finding a connection, you will actually be curious and open.
Your eyes will be drawn to someone with a new perspective and you may even have the energy to really read what these potential dates are saying or at least try to see them for what they are trying to portray.
By being more intentional during online dating, you may find yourself wanting to meet someone you're really interested in, rather than someone who's convenient.
Do you feel pressure that “your time is running out”? I hear it all the time. That watch feels heavy to a lot of singles and I can understand why.
There can be a lot of anxiety around finding a partner, getting married, and then possibly starting a family.
This is especially true if you're like many Millennials who first built their careers and then now, in their early to late thirties, feel jumpy about their biological clock.
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